I thought I’d be doing more research on this since I’ve been going through this for the longest time now. It’s not as hard as I thought it would be, but it is a huge step. The first step is to say “I’m not a virgin anymore.” This is the step that can change a lot of things in your life.
In the case of the college virgin, this is actually a great step too. In the case of a virgin, it’s really not that big of a step to start dating someone who is a virgin. I mean, you can’t really go down that road now can you? Instead of thinking about whether or not she’s a virgin or whether or not you’re a virgin, try to take the two steps I just described and go from there.
The first step in talking to someone about your sexual orientation is finding out if they are or aren’t a virgin. This is actually a big one. A lot of people are scared of the idea that they have to define themselves in a very narrow way. I say “scared” because I think it comes from wanting to be free to be who they are. To me, this is a great step.